I remember the first time I tried online dating back in 2009 (because I definitely wasn’t meeting guys at design school in Manhattan, sorry FIT), my Mom paused after I told her and said, “Didn’t I tell you not to talk to strangers on the internet?”
Well, now that it’s 2018 it’s hardly weird anymore, and online dating is the way to go.
Aside from singlehandedly being the best way to not waste your time, online dating also opens you up to a lot of men you definitely wouldn’t have met otherwise.
I met my husband on Tinder, and he’s someone I never in a million years would have bumped into in real life, even though Manhattan isn’t really that big. But we both swiped right, so I’m sitting here writing this for you with diamond rings on my finger, and I have Tinder and tech to thank for that one.
If you’ve struggled with the bio on your online dating profile, here are all my tips you need for mastering the art of writing yourself a knockout one, that definitely will pique the interest of quality guys (Ok, ok, full disclosure there is nothing I can do to filter out the creeps from messaging you too).
Be Unabashedly You
First things first, definitely don’t be afraid to be honest about yourself, your interests, and who you actually are.
This is the first step to writing your knockout bio, and it’s the first step towards getting yourself to a place where you can meet the right guy and have things click.
Never be afraid to be yourself, no matter what, but especially when it comes to online dating. You’re end game is to meet someone that loves you for who you really are, right?
Get Out A Pen
The easiest way to come up with what to say about yourself is to get out a pen and paper and literally write down what you like about yourself, what you enjoy doing with your time, what your passions are, what your goals are, and where you want to be in 5 years.
It’s a great exercise, and it will help you take a look at everything in one place and then choose what to include from there!
Don’t Saying Anything Generic
Don’t include generic phrases like, “I’m down to earth”, “I like traveling”, “I love to laugh”. If you actually are down to earth though and you want people to know, get freaking creative and say something else, like, “I’m as easy going as a day in May.”
Put some effort in and you’re going to get better results! You want to stand out!
Include Conversation Starters
You absolutely want to include information about yourself and your interests that also make for easy lead ins for a guy to start a conversation with you! “Hey, how are you?” gets boring and old real fast, but if you include a couple of key things, you easily help yourself filter out guys who don’t really care to make an effort in the first place.
Full disclosure, my husband’s first message to me was pretty much five whole paragraphs. I was surprised he was able to get that much out of what I wrote, because it wasn’t a lot, and it mostly centered around my horse, but my point here is you don’t have to write a novel.
What are you passionate about? What do you love doing on weekends? What’s your favorite kind of night out? What’s an interesting fact about you? Easy little things like that are the beginnings of meaningful conversations.
Less Is More
Don’t write run on sentences about yourself, and don’t write things in huge paragraphs. Less is more here. Break up what you write into a few sentences spaced out so it’s easier for someone to read. It’s also more eye catching and will make things stand out.
Photos Say A Lot
Your photos say a lot about you, so whatever you do, do not include selfies, bikini photos, mirror pics, photos with other guys, or photos that have so many of your girlfriends in it a guy can’t tell who’s who. You should try to pick photos that showcase what you love to do and ones that literally show the best side of you through your interests.
Have A Call To Action
A great way to end your profile is with a call to action, which basically means a phrase that evokes an immediate reaction. Something like this could be cute: “Let’s talk over margaritas if you want to find out more”. It makes it easier for a guy to reach out to you!
Bre is a female millennial go getter residing in New York. One part entrepreneur, one part geek, she obtained her degree in Textile/Surface Design from The Fashion Institute of Technology.
She has held some exciting roles in both fashion as a designer working for brands like Victoria’s Secret and Henri Bendel, as well as in ad tech working for publishers like Ziff Davis.
Today she operates her own luxury label and is also the Chief Chick at Chipchick.com which reaches millions of women each month.
Bre is passionate about keeping women informed of the latest technology trends and products to improve their lifestyle and believes in providing real, useful information and advice to her readers.