Fads in some senses are fine. They don’t affect our health, for the most part, and we’re making the choice for ourselves about whether or not we want to participate in the said fads. However, some don’t get the choice about whether or not they partake in the fads.
We talking about parenting fads. Of course, parents are only partaking in these fads because they think they’re helping their children but in reality, they aren’t. Another aspect is, their babies can’t actually share if any of these new fads are helpful or not.
A lot of these fads have proven to create feelings of “inadequacy, self-doubt or vitamin deficiencies” for children as they continue to grow. Despite the good intentions of these parents, some of these fads can put children in physical or emotional danger.
In case you didn’t know already, here are some of the parenting fads that can cause problems for your children down the road.
As adults, we have a lot of different choices in regards to what kind of milk we want to drink. For us though, it isn’t completely essential we drink milk as part of our diet. For babies, especially newborns, having the correct milk is extremely important.
We can drink almond, coconut, soy or other nut “milks” but studies have proven if you give this to your baby it can cause problems. One of the latest fads is switching your baby over from breastmilk or formula to nut-based milk (almond, coconut, soy, etc.).
This is because some parents, who are practicing vegans, want their children to keep a vegan diet as well.
Having your baby drink these milks before they are a year old can lead to serious nutrient deficiencies, dehydration, or even death. What many parents are forgetting is that breastmilk, and soy-based formulas, are actually vegan approved.
Another fad that is taking over the parenting world is called ‘yes parenting.’ Yes, it is as crazy as it sounds. Instead of telling your child ‘no’ or ‘don’t’, parents have started using what is called positive discipline. I know, the words positive and discipline rarely go together – let’s dive into what this really entails.
This style of parenting is slightly confusing. In “yes parenting” there are no bribes, no yelling, no sticker charts, no time-outs. Why exactly? It argues that both rewards and punishments override a child’s natural desire to behave a specific way.
Basically, it’s saying that when you don’t use ‘yes parenting’ you’re teaching your child to behave certain ways only so they are rewarded.
Psychologists say that this form of parenting is actually doing more harm than good. They say that the word ‘no’ creates healthy boundaries. Therefore, when your children grow up they have no problem creating boundaries in their relationships throughout life. If you grow up never hearing the word – it makes it way more difficult.
This form of parenting is one that I can’t even begin to wrap my head around. Let me introduce to you RIE parenting, or as it’s formally called “Resources for Infant Educarers.” What exactly is RIE parenting?
In short, it’s treating your children like they are a mini adult (I know, it’s wild).