The internet can be a wealth of great advice, and Reddit is a perfect example of a community to turn to when you’re in need of some help.
This dad who goes by Pause96 shared one of the hardest situations I’ve personally ever seen, asking the internet if he’s nasty for it and people were seriously torn on what to tell him.
His 25-year-old daughter that he loves is a diagnosed sociopath, but her soon-to-be fiancé has no idea.
“I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath,” he began in his post.
He went on to say that his daughter acted disturbingly and oddly when she was quite young.
It was after she seriously abused her younger sister that he knew in his heart he needed to get her professional help.
“Throughout her elementary years, she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors. With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.”
“After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest.”
“She uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.”
“But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.”
“When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing.”
“She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done and doesn’t know what guilt feels like. While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is sexually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.”
“Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.”
“I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.”
“I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make, but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever,” he finished the post by saying.
Reddit users weren’t even sure what to tell this dad and it quickly became a discussion about sociopaths in the comments.
One user said, “You’re ethically compromised either way. It’s probably best you stay out of it.”
Another weighed in with, “If you truly respect this guy, please, tell him, but never let it get back to your daughter that you were the one that told him. And for God’s sake, and the sake of your family, watch her. Do as much research as possible, and pay attention to every last detail of every move she makes. Try as hard as you can to separate your emotions from your judgment. Please.”
You can read the original post here. What do you think? How would you even begin to reply to this?
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