FinalWintersEve is a Reddit user, wife, and mom. She recently took to the internet to ask if she’s a jerk for what she does to her husband when he tries to skip out on helping her with their kids.
Together, the couple has twins that are under a year old, and they are both on paternity and maternity leave. We all know twins of any age can be a handful simply because you have to do double the work.
When this wife asks her husband to change one of their diapers, give them a bottle, or do something to calm them down if they are being fussy, he’s quick to take a long bathroom break.
Here’s the catch: her husband takes a certain medication every few weeks that does leave him spending around an hour in the bathroom on occasions after having a meal.
He claims this medication is why he spends so much time in the bathroom, but when this wife asked his doctor if that was plausible, the doctor stated it was not very likely.
The doctor then said he should be seen for a checkup, but when she told her husband he claimed nothing was really bad and doesn’t want to go.
“I would rather let him use the restroom first than have to put down a baby mid-task, but over the past couple months he has been spending more and more time in there,” this wife shared online.
“He always takes his phone. He is always watching youtube. His average session is 25 minutes in there, often longer, rarely shorter.”
“Today I started a new rule. If he is in the bathroom for more than 10 minutes, I flip the WiFi off,” she explained.
“He has not spent more than 15 minutes in the bathroom at a stretch today but is extremely upset. I feel like the fact that without the WiFi his uncontrollable toilet issue cleared up rather quickly proves why it needs to be done, but he feels I am being unreasonable, and I need to make sure sleep deprivation isn’t making me an a**hole.”
She then asked if she’s in the wrong, “For turning off the WiFi when my husband is in the bathroom for extended periods of time, avoiding domestic and fatherly duties.”
People were quick to weigh in, with one user saying, “We get it, caring for two children is hard, that’s why it’s not fair for him to be bailing on you.”
Another said, “Yeah honestly if she has to act like a single parent, she might as well be one.”
You can read the original post here. What do you think of how she handles things with her husband?
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