“Last weekend, she messaged my husband, after I had gone to bed. He told me about what was said the morning after.”
“Basically, she said she wished she could be with him, and that she needed him, etc, etc. She didn’t want him to tell me, but I’m glad he did.”
“I don’t think it’s right that she overstepped the way she did.”
“It feels incredibly inappropriate. She’s tried messaging me like everything was normal, but I’ve been ignoring them – I have no desire to talk to her, and I don’t think I should have to.”
“My husband and I talked, and agree that there needs to be better boundaries from her because he said he was uncomfortable with the way she spoke to him too.”
“Throughout the week, she caught on that I didn’t want to speak with her, so she’s been blowing up my husband’s phone.”
“He told her we needed space. And she gave us space – for one night.”
“Tonight, she’s been sending us both essays on how she’s so sad… At first, I didn’t say anything to her.”
“I said, “leave it and us alone”, and muted the conversation.”
“She’s had her ex-husband message my husband, she’s saying she’s crying about having to explain to her mom and (my) husband’s mom that they’re losing a friendship over my bs.”
“I admit, I despise her now. But we asked for space. I didn’t think this woman who’s almost 30 needed to be acting like she’s 15. I feel like she’s getting high on her own drama.”
“Should I have messaged her back?”
The internet agreed she should be cutting all ties with this woman, not trying to talk to her.
“Always remember: if they want your man, any sign of weakness in a relationship is a “chance” for her to swoop in. Just be smart about who you confide to!”
“Just openly tell her you and your husband speak about everything and her advances weren’t welcome. Also, send her texts to your mothers. You are in this trouble because you don’t speak up for yourself and telling someone you knew wanted your husband about marital troubles. You really need to learn when and with whom to be open.”
“This person is toxic. Have your husband screen cap the message, forward it to you and you forward it to her and let her know you’ll forward it to anyone else who questions your decision.”
“Emphasis on having your husband do it. If you do it yourself, she might try to spin it as you trying to frame her or something. It should be clear to everyone that you and the husband are on the same page.”
“I don’t understand why any of you are talking to her. She obviously wants attention, enough so to get purposely pregnant by someone else. She is just a family friend, not family. Warn his mother. It is not worth your marriage or family.”
“If he doesn’t block her I’d be suspicious he’s enjoying the attention. She adds nothing of value to their lives, why on earth are they allowing this harassment is beyond me.”
“She sounds really manipulating. Consider this a lesson learned that all friendly people are not friends. It’s easy to become friends with these types of backstabbers, sounds like your husband is a good honest man!”
She then shared in an update, “she’s completely muted for both of us.”
“We may not be able to completely avoid her in family functions one day, but this helps.”
“Thank you, everyone. You’ve all given me a lot to think about in myself too. I appreciate all your comments and support. I’ll try to reply to as many as I can.”
“I think things are resolved enough for my husband and I that I’ll finally be able to destress and fall asleep. We’ll see though.”
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