Chip Chick
His next step was making it clear to his niece the price of everything she would need to spend money on, and he helped her see that she would need to make huge adjustments to her style of living.
Once his niece understood she would need to change her life considerably to live within the budget he showed her, she began to doubt her relationship.
“She broke up with him and has moved back home,” he said. “It appears she asked him about his salary and it was lower than my assumptions and that freaked her out and she broke up with him.”
“She is upset and she said I scared her and she really misses him. My wife said that I was a bit manipulative with my assumptions as I did know they were more generous than normal and she would freak out when she tried to make a real budget. I did know that and It does make me feel a bit bad. I feel like I played her here.”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“You didn’t play her. You gave her a badly needed dose of reality. You showed her how to make a budget, which gave her a rosy picture of how her life would be with him financially.”
“It was a much lower standard of living than she is used to.”
“It forced her to look a the financial ramifications going forward if she stayed in that relationship. She decided that her standard of living was more important to her than “love.” Thanks for taking the time to explain to her how things work in the adult world.”
“I wish my parents had done this with me in general. I feel like I was never taught how to be an adult and have been making it up as I go along since then.”
