Chip Chick
“Then ask her which one you should discuss at the funeral, preferably with her grieving mother.”
“Your “friend” is being a bully like Amanda was. Looks like she did you a favor….you know she’s not really a friend.”
“Death doesn’t magically change who that person was. You’re not being disrespectful or cruel by not going, your friend needs to accept your decision and back off.”
“Don’t go to the funeral and you might want to consider dropping your friend too. No, you can’t dictate who your friends hang out with, but if they knowingly hung out with people that were bullying you, that would have been a sign for most to distance themselves, and the fact that she expected you to go to her funeral, talking about ‘good times’ was proof she either really wasn’t paying attention or didn’t care.”
“…It’s almost like you’re being bullied by her memory at this point. This girl was a bully to you (and very recently!). She died.”
“You said nothing mean, you are totally respectful, you move on. That is a lot, you’re great. I have no idea how or why your friend is asking what they’re asking of you, but they’re completely in the wrong.”
“There’s a way you could have handled this inappropriately. You haven’t.”
