Chip Chick
“Sounds like her and Scott were more than just co-workers. Get a DNA test.”
“Frankly, I think it’s telling she didn’t share the meaning or importance to her until you settled on the name.”
“It seems like she knew you wouldn’t be ok with it and that’s why she didn’t tell you until you’d accepted it. That is not ok.”
“Since it sounds to me like if you’d had that information from the beginning that you wouldn’t have settled on it, that exonerates you, in my mind.”
“She, on the other hand, lied. You directly asked her where it came from and she didn’t tell you.”
“…Even before getting into the deceit part, wanting to name your baby after a coworker you knew casually (mentor or no, clearly they didn’t spend much legitimate friendship time together if you never met him) is a really…cringey thing to do.”
“Frankly, I think you’re preventing your wife from embarrassing herself and avoiding a lot of uncomfortable moments in the future.”
“The fact that she wants to publicly link baby announcements to her dead coworker’s memorialized Facebook page (which is, and no disrespect to your wife here, but it’s unhinged) suggests that she thinks people would understand/be on board with or even enthusiastic/touched by that as a normal or even sweet thing to do (it is not, it’s really effing weird), so I can envision her excitedly wanting to talk about deceased Scott’s connection to your baby and getting upset when your family friends are uncomfortable and weirded out rather than enthusiastic.”
“Long story short: you’re in the right here, and your wife seems to have a bit of a delusional streak about what counts as a) a close friend and b) appropriate close friend behavior.”
