“Most people just laughed along,” she said. “That seemed to anger Alex and I was told “children are a joy, and a good mother puts her kids before everything else”. I agreed, ‘children are a joy, I like spending time with the nieces and nephews, and obviously, I can’t be a good mom if I chose sushi over kids so I just won’t be a mom’ (paraphrased).”
“Still trying to brush it off in a gentle way because I’m not trying to start a fight by telling them to stop asking in front of everyone because I know my tone will be seen as rude and abrasive.”
The conversation continued on to something else, but Alex wasn’t about to let this go.
Alex began saying things to other people at the party that were not very nice about her. Her husband happened to catch something Alex had said, and he tried to joke with Alex about the situation.
Alex just got more upset, but eventually ceased with the commenting. The party ended, and they had no idea Alex was going to be holding a grudge about it.
They found out when Alex did not invite them to the Halloween party they have every year, and so her husband reached out to his mom and dad to talk to them about it.
Her husband’s parents said that Alex was still upset, and felt they were cold and unfeeling about not wanting children.
Alex had to go through many fertility treatments to be able to have children, and Alex did struggle with multiple miscarriages during that time.
She maintains that she knows it was hard for Alex to go through the process of trying for children, but that doesn’t change the fact that she herself does not want them, and she’s sick of having to defend her decision to people.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“I’ve never understood why the default is always “when are you having kids.” Shouldn’t people make an active decision to have kids based on their individual lives and whatnot?”