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It totaled a little over $450, and she tried to pay him back, but he wouldn’t let her do that.
“He went on to tell me that if I ever needed anything, I should just ask him and not pay for it myself,” she explained. “He said this includes food or if I go beyond my utility usage in a month.”
“Later that evening, I told him I really appreciated that but that I don’t want him to go such an extra mile for me because I can take care of myself.”
“I told him that I really like that he pays for dates but if he pays for everything of mine, then it would make me feel too awkward or feel like I have to give it back somehow (I have a history of childhood trauma and an abusive relationship so I’m going to therapy for 2 years now. I have a fear of abandonment and also struggle to let people help me).”
“He knows all of this so he understood but told me it’s something he really wants to do anyway. After a bit of a back and forth, he then admitted spending money on me turns him on.”
He then shared with her that prior to them being in a relationship, whenever he had the opportunity to pay for something on her behalf, he would go home and uh,…let’s just say think about that while also thinking about her.
He finds it really “hot” knowing that he can provide for her, and she wasn’t even aware this was something that could turn someone on.
She appreciated him being honest with her, and she’s trying hard not to judge him at all, but she’s concerned this is going to come back to bite her in some way.
“What if it turns out controlling?” she wondered. “What if he eventually expects me to pay him back?”
“I’m also afraid that this will be something that can be used against me. I’ve never dated someone with this mindset…”
How would you feel in this situation?
