Chip Chick
“If he had limited the search to just you, and perhaps immediate family, that would be one thing. The fact that he did it for your extended family is a little disconcerting…”
“In this day and age, I think that getting a background check done on anybody you’re serious about having a long-term relationship with is smart, but leave the extended family out of it.”
“My current wife ran a background check on me before we moved in together. Partly because there were minor children involved on her side and I’m sure she didn’t want some creeper moving in.”
“She did it to protect herself and the kids, and with that reasoning, I was fine with it.”
“I can tell that one of the biggest reasons for your rage has nothing to do with you at all. It’s the violation of your friends and family and the delving into their secrets, some of which are probably shameful, that seems to upset you the most.”
“It feels perverse or voyeuristic to dig that deeply into the lives of others without them knowing. It’s gross and so upsetting.”
“I don’t think I could look at my spouse the same ever again, knowing they would do this.”
