Chip Chick
“Every holiday dinner should be a team effort with designated roles. In my family, my uncle does the meats, gran does the mac and cheese, aunt and cousin does the side dishes and other family members bring drinks.”
“Desserts are store-bought, never handmade. Plates and utensils are plastic/paper to cut down on cleaning.”
“The fact that it’s been addressed repeatedly, and he makes zero effort to compromise, assist, or defend you is basically a snapshot of what your entire marriage will look like.”
“Real partners care about the things that affect the other, because ultimately it affects you both. And if he doesn’t feel affected, aka this is your problem to figure out, know he does not consider you a partner but a convenience. This will be every single problem you face…alone, not together.”
“I hope you go home (to YOUR house that you mentioned) and enjoy every moment of your solo thanksgiving and relish it. And contemplate your future because you are worth and deserve FAR better!”
“Run woman! Run! I’ve been married 17 1/2 years. One of the main reasons that our marriage has worked is that my husband believes in 50-50 sharing your duties, even with the kids. He would never ever leave me to clean up or cook alone, ever.”
“He always helps or at least helped with the kids when they were little. He has always been concerned with whether not I am having fun or he will tell me to sit down and relax for a while.”
“What you were seeing with your fiancé is what the marriage will be like. It’s how his family will always treat you. Like you were a slave and then don’t appreciate you. I can’t believe that last year you ask people to bring sides and no one brought anything.”
“I am absolutely baffled by that! Now throw a baby or two in the mix and see what your life will be like slaving for these people every holiday and not enjoying your time with your children.”
