Chip Chick
For example, if I spend all day thinking about how much I miss my college friends or coworkers at my last job, I’ll start resenting the life I’m living now for keeping me from them—both geographically and by limiting our time to connect.
Avoiding the cliche of “living in the past” doesn’t mean I don’t think about these friends daily or wish that I could be more involved in their lives.
Instead, it means I’m giving myself the chance to appreciate my life as it is, to open myself up to new connections and experiences.
The true, unshakable friends understand all of this—they, too, sometimes let weeks or months go by without calling or texting, either because they’re busy establishing a new routine or just focused on staying afloat.
It doesn’t mean they hate me or we’ve grown apart. And every time we see each other, things always fall back into place.
I hope we can maintain a sense of perspective on our friends’ lives as well as our own, giving our time and energy when we’re able to and giving ourselves grace when we aren’t. Because we know our friends would do the same for us.
