“I was curious about pricing, venues, catering, decor, and more. I wanted to start researching so I could get an idea of how much this kind of event would cost,” the woman explained.
So, after scouring the web for different options, the woman began filling out a spreadsheet. She put approximate costs down for vendors and weighed the price variations of different venues.
The woman did not see anything wrong with what she was doing until she saw her boyfriend’s reaction.
“He came up to me while I was doing this and asked what I was doing. I didn’t think I had anything to hide, so I said I was just looking into what a wedding would cost,” the woman recalled.
“He immediately looked super uncomfortable and left.”
Her boyfriend ended up leaving unexpectedly to visit a friend and will not discuss the interaction ever since.
“Am I being insensitive looking into it this early? I know he had a bad breakup which ended his first marriage, his ex cheated, but should that be a consideration as to whether I should even look?” the woman wondered.
She also received two very different opinions after asking her family for advice. The woman’s brother called her “absolutely nuts” for researching anything wedding-related before she is engaged.
On the other hand, the woman’s mother believes it is reasonable to inquire about pricing for budgets-sake without making any hard purchases.
Regardless, now this woman is left in an awkward situation with her boyfriend. What would you have done in her shoes?
Do you think she totally jumped the gun or that her research was innocent? What advice would you give to the couple to move past this?