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A few months ago they began dating after her boyfriend said that he was in love with her, and he would like to be in a serious relationship with her.
“He has supported me in my last year of studies and says he will continue to support me post-grad studies as well, so it felt right to invite him to my spring ceremony (my school only does grad ceremonies in the spring and I finish this fall),” she explained.
“The problem is that he won’t be going as my boyfriend, but as a “friend”, because if my parents were to find out, they’d place an ultimatum, saying it’s either school or him.”
“I think that’s absurd, I can manage work, school, and relationships, I know myself well. My parents know I date behind their backs, but don’t want me to tell them directly.”
She really isn’t interested in keeping the truth from her parents since they think it’s so very important to be honest and trust one another, though she knows if she tells them about her boyfriend it will get ugly.
Her boyfriend is upset to have to be kept a secret, yet he is sympathetic towards her reasoning behind it all. His parents are also aware of what’s going on, and they have tried to be supportive of her.
Her boyfriend is positive that her parents will like him, especially since he wants to be able to spend the rest of his life with her and eventually propose.
So in the meantime, her plan is to let her boyfriend and her parents spend time together under the guise of her boyfriend simply being her friend, with the hopes that her mom and dad will think he’s a nice guy.
“Is this a good plan?” she wondered. “Is there something else we can do to lessen potential conflicts?”
She does admit that her mom and dad have gotten less strict as she’s grown up, but she isn’t convinced they’re in a place in their lives where they will be ok with her having a serious boyfriend.
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