“She has been involved, supportive, and helped me so much from the start. She has been able to support me in different ways than my father that have helped me greatly.”
“She has definitely been my female role model in my life and I can say that I have true love for her. Their wedding is this summer, and she asked her to be the maid of honor.”
Obviously, she happily accepted. Somehow her mother found out about it.
Though they do text a little, she is still low contact with her mother. Somehow her mother found out about her being the maid of honor for her dad’s wedding and she called her crying.
“It would break her heart if I were to be the maid of honor at their wedding,” she mentioned. “She went on a rant that she will always remain my mother and that nothing is going to change about that. I just told her that I didn’t know what to answer.”
She supports her father and her future stepmother. She doesn’t know how to make it clear to her mother that she has no say in her life, without cutting her out of her life completely.
One commenter suggested that she doesn’t need to go to the effort of explaining herself. Her mother is just trying to cause drama.
Another said that her mother sounded like a classic narcissist; more focused on how she looks to people rather than what is best for her daughter.
Someone else made a very good point which I wholeheartedly agree with. They suggested that she should ignore her mother as “you can’t control her actions any more than she can control yours.”
“Generally, this type of abuser will take any opening,” they said.
“You may have to go no contact. It might be until after the wedding or it might be longer depending on what you are or aren’t willing to put up with and for how long.”