“He spends money impulsively and seems to often have an empty bank account with a credit card balance despite having next to no fixed expenses,” she said.
Another thing that irritates her is that she drives more than 2 hours every week to spend time with her boyfriend since he actually does not drive.
She wishes her boyfriend would give her gas money, but he doesn’t unless she gets after him about contributing.
“Given what I’ve gathered from stories he’s told about his ex and some friends, as well as his parents, he has a habit of borderline financially abusing people,” she continued.
“I can tell his parents are frustrated that he’s basically not contributing financially to the household, however, it appears they have and continue to enable him in various ways.”
“This has been a growing concern for me as I look down the line and try to picture our future together.”
She anticipates that this fall, her boyfriend is going to get laid off yet again, and he’s going to be without work for 3 or 4 months after that.
Even though this is most likely going to happen, she knows her boyfriend will keep spending money like crazy and without any concerns.
“Admittedly, I feel resentful as I feel like he hasn’t contributed as much or made our relationship a priority,” she added.
“I acknowledge that I earn more, however, my fixed expenses are far higher, so realistically, we’re even when it comes to expendable income.”
“I want to be able to go on occasional dates, travel together, move in together, etc, but all I seem to hear about is a lack of $ and credit card debt, meanwhile he’ll go drop a few $100 here and there on impulse purchases, and I’m struggling to get through to him.”