Katharina Buczek
But then, she felt the energy totally shift and realized that Donna was completely stunned. Then, Donna asked kind of defensively, “What’s that supposed to mean?”
The barbecue had turned completely awkward by that point, so she just stiffly laughed and said she was still only twenty-four years old. And afterward, she explained how she does not plan to even think about marriage until she is twenty-seven and does not want to have kids until she is at least twenty-nine or thirty years old.
After all, she wants to enjoy her twenties and live out her young adult life to the fullest before settling down and becoming a wife and mother.
Despite this being completely understandable, though, Donna did not take the news well at all. Instead, Donna literally burst into tears before making some wild accusations.
“Donna said that if that was the case, I should have told Brent before I ‘wasted his time’ and that if I wanted to be reckless and non-commital and not family-oriented, then I should have ‘done it with someone else,'” she explained. Major yikes!
This forced her to speak up for herself and tell Donna how hurtful that was to hear. She also underscored how she loves Brent but is still in school. So, she does not really have the time or financial means for a wedding and babies.
But then, Brent jumped into the conversation and actually made it way worse. He claimed that he made enough money to pay for everything until she was comfortable. And this only made his entire family start pushing marriage on her even harder.
In fact, they tried saying that being married at twenty-four versus twenty-seven is not that different. Then, they commented on how having kids while young is great because she will be with someone who is successful and supportive.
And finally, Brent’s family said she would still be able to “live her life” while young and how having children at her age was biologically healthier.
Clearly, the conversation progressed way too quickly for her liking, though, so she finally told everyone off.
“Brent has not even asked me to marry him, so it feels weird to have this conversation with everyone else before I have it with my own boyfriend. I’ll get married and have babies when I am ready to, not when anyone tells me to,” she told them before excusing herself from the table.
