Katharina Buczek
“My daughter said she was not sure, but she didn’t feel that way about her. And I told them both of their feelings were one hundred percent understandable.”
After all, both of his children did like his new wife and thought she was very kind. They just did not want anyone to replace their biological mom.
So, he spoke to his fiancé at the time, and she said she understood. He also made it clear that she would need to be okay if they always viewed her as a stepmom. And, after taking some time to mull it over, she did eventually agree.
However, after they actually got married, he realized that something had changed with his new wife. Apparently, she became growing agitated that his daughter did not call her “mom.”
He thinks his son’s stance bothers her less because he is older and knew his mother. But, his wife thinks his daughter should be more open to the idea of calling her “mom” since she is virtually the only maternal figure she has ever known.
Still, though, he wanted to respect his children’s wishes and suggested that he and his wife go to couples therapy in order to work through everything together.
But, she continued to reassure him that she was fine with it and that she would get over it.
Just last week, his wife and her parents began bringing up the topic to him again. In fact, his in-laws suggested that he should actually encourage his children to call his wife “mom” because his daughter “deserves to have a mom in her life” and “will never know her birth mother.”
He completely disagreed that pushing his daughter was a good idea, though, and refused.
“Then, they told me I was putting my kids’ feelings before my wife’s, and I said yes. They said I was a bad husband and a bad father for denying this from both of them and stringing their daughter along,” he explained.
This understandably seriously pissed him off, and he has since told his wife that they need to go to therapy.
