Katharina Buczek
“I am honestly getting frustrated that he frequently complains about his job and then does nothing to address the root of the problem,” she explained.
“And I have noticed that this is a pattern– he will not work to fix his problems.”
For instance, her boyfriend currently lives with his mother, and they have a bunch of issues in their relationship.
Still, though, she has never seen her boyfriend try to work through his problems with his mother or prepare to move out.
So, since her boyfriend basically hates his job and his living situation, she always feels like she has to step in and try to relieve her boyfriend of some stress.
Like sometimes, she considers trying to search for other jobs for him or offering to move out and split the rent with him.
However, she also does not want to fall down a rabbit hole of constantly solving her boyfriend’s problems since she believes the relationship would become really unfair.
“I know I should not set that precedent of taking care of him. I don’t want this relationship to be unequal, and I want him to take care of his own life like I’ve taken care of mine,” she vented.
On top of all this, her parents are also not huge fans of her boyfriend. And even though this did not really bother her in the past, their disapproval has begun to get to her now.
However, she is not sure if her concerns are shallow. She recognizes that her boyfriend is an amazing guy who has never once asked her to take care of him. Plus, he is always there to emotionally support her.
Still, she just does not want to live with someone who is not proactive about fixing their problems. Moreover, even if he did promise to get his life together and move with her, she is not sure if she would want him to.
