“I’m not sure why, but I cried when I got into my car,” she said. “It was just so nice to be with him again and talk to him and hear him laugh and see that he still has the same little mannerisms. Anyway, he texts me later that night and says it was really nice to see me, he missed me, and that he hopes I still want to give this friend thing a shot.”
“I say yeah, I do (hesitantly because I’m not sure what I’m feeling now). He then responds a couple of hours later, saying that we should probably talk about setting up boundaries which, according to him, “might be a good idea if we want to give this an honest effort.” This is where I am confused.”
She has not ever been friends with one of her exes, but she’s never heard of setting up boundaries around being friends with an ex, and she can’t understand why he wants to do this. She plans on respecting any boundary he has, but she wants to figure out why he is doing this in the first place.
She suspects he might be in another relationship, and the boundaries could be a way for him to remain respectful to his current flame. She also is thinking maybe her ex still has feelings for her, and that could be something that could get in the way of them being friends.
“I’m still thinking about my reaction from last night, and I think I felt something while I was with him – just not sure what,” she continued.
“Indigestion? I do miss him, and I do want him in my life I’m just confused about why we need to set these friendship boundaries.”
Do you think exes can ever be friends, and why do you think her ex wants to set boundaries around their friendship?
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