Her mom absolutely hates her wife and always asks her not to discuss her wife at all. In fact, her mom acts like her wife does not even exist. It breaks her heart, but her mom was raised to be ultra-conservative, and so she is aware that her upbringing has caused her to be so close-minded.
“I have a feeling that when her parents die, I might be able to get through to her,” she said. “Or when my wife and I have kids because my mom and her husband want grandkids very badly.”
“We were very close at one point, and then she formed this fictional opinion of my wife in her head that she’s so wrapped up in she can’t see the wonderful person my wife really is. I want to refuse her offer of going home for the holidays, but I also don’t want to damage the relationship I have with her further. I love my mom, even if she’s an a******, and I believe she can change for the better.”
She used to be super close to her mom, and her mom was the one who always supported her in being herself. It’s taking a toll on her that her mom does not understand that she is interested in starting her own family, so her life can no longer revolve around her.
She’s left wondering if it would be mean of her to set boundaries with her mom this year and spend Christmas alone with her wife.
Do you think it’s ok for her not to do what her mom wants her to do?
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