Chip Chick
“He tells me he has to leave because he’s dog-sitting for his parents,” she explained. “He said, ‘You know, you can come back to their house if you want. We can hang out for a little bit.'”
This proposal didn’t appeal to her at all, and she let him know that she didn’t feel comfortable with doing that, she said.
She was wary of the fact that going back to his house with him would “have implications that I don’t want, cause I don’t want to sleep with you,” she explained.
She was clear about her boundaries and what she was comfortable doing versus what she really didn’t want to do.
“I’m just not interested in hooking up and like putting out that easy,” she told him.
He played into this at first, telling her that she didn’t have to worry about any of that because he was fine with just being together.
The problem with this response is the coercion that she felt forced to give into. She agreed to go with him, hoping that he was telling the truth.
However, the situation turned out to be worse than she expected when she got to his house.
“We’re like hanging out, making out, whatever– it’s fine,” she said. “He, like, tries to make me touch him, and I’m like, ‘oh, no, I’m not comfortable with that.'”
At the point where he should have stopped and apologized for making her uncomfortable, he instead chose to make her feel worse about her boundaries.
“Why? It’s not that big of a deal,” he asked her. “He like continued to try to like force my hand down, and I’m like, ‘no thank you, I’m ok.'”
