Her therapist also hinted at the fact that James clearly was not ready to get married to her for whatever reason.
She left her therapist’s office so upset that she quit going for some time, and she refused to see things for what they were.
Eventually, she tried to approach James about what her former therapist had said, and although he freaked out initially, he then revealed that the therapist was right.
James then admitted he didn’t want to get married to her or have children for another year at least, and he blamed her for rushing everything in their relationship before ending the conversation.
Later on, James mentioned to her that he needed to “explore” his other options before then shocking her by saying he didn’t picture her as being the perfect mom to his future kids.
“And he believes in marriage before kids and for the purpose of kids, so that explained the hold off on marriage,” she explained.
“The reason he cites for him not being sure about me is that he thinks our relationship initially went too fast. That we moved in together after a year, and that his parents, who are happily married, continue to have an issue with that. However, the root of the problem is that when we started to get to know each other…he told me he wanted to explore more unconventional interests. One of it included him tying me up…and also him urinating and defecating on me.”
“He said his mind took a picture of those compromising situations, and he cannot get over it. There was sometimes alcohol involved, but we both agreed to do it and only with each other. However, he is now saying that it was horrible and that he doesn’t trust my decisions, especially when alcohol and sleeping together are involved. That if he is looking at our kid or watching me give birth, that will be all he can think of. He said he was sorry but cannot reframe his perception of me into a mother and hates me for it.”
So, her willingness to be more freaky in bed is the reason why James can’t look at her as wife material anymore.
In light of the honesty that James showed her in revealing all of this, she decided to let him know that she was afraid he had already found another woman and was cheating on her.
James insisted there is not another woman in his life, but he happened to be eyeing his sister-in-law’s little sister, who just graduated from college.