Chip Chick
During the honeymoon phase of your marriage, romance is easy to come by. However, this is usually short-lived. After some time, romance will inevitably dwindle, and you are left with the choice to love your partner and put in the work to be romantic or divorce.
Do not expect your marriage to be perfect all the time. Likewise, do not expect your relationship to be full of romance all the time. This added pressure will only make things harder for both of you.
If you feel the romance start to dwindle, try to be romantic. Plan a surprise date night. Plan a weekend trip for the two of you.
Reaffirm your choice to spend the rest of your life with this special someone every day by showing gratitude and appreciation in some way – big or small.
Mistake #3: Expecting the Hollywood happy ending.
Real marriage is not like the movies – the fairytale romance is just that – a fairytale. Real people have quirks and traits – some you will love and some you will tolerate. Your relationship will be as “perfect” as you make it through hard work and collaboration.
Work together as a team to create your Hollywood happy ending – don’t expect it.
Mistake #4: Not dealing with your Monster-In-Law the right way.
No – you don’t have to get along with your in-laws all the time. Sometimes, you won’t see eye to eye with your spouse’s family. However, navigating that disagreement determines if this will be a marriage breaker.
If a conflict arises with an in-law, pull your spouse aside and talk with them about it. Get their opinion. Please ensure you are both on the same page, and then let them help you resolve this conflict with your in-laws. The last thing you want to do is be disrespectful to your mother-in-law and your spouse, not be aware of the situation – this invites a fight with your spouse.
Make sure your spouse has a say in how to handle the disagreement. It’s not fun to have to bite your tongue when your in-law slights you, but sometimes it is what is best at the moment. Choose your battles wisely – they are your family now too.
