After she told her stepdaughter why she couldn’t drop everything and visit, her stepdaughter turned around and started a problem with her husband.
Her stepdaughter went on about how she always wanted a mom of her own (her biological mom is not in the picture), and her stepdaughter accused her of never welcoming her because she’s not her own biological daughter.
Her stepdaughter also caused a ruckus about how she was being shoved to the back burner because of the bird, and she felt that was the worst insult possible.
Her stepdaughter kept going, saying she has no heart and is pretty much a terrible person.
“I feel really hurt, and I can tell he agrees with her even though he’s refusing to take sides,” she said.
“But I don’t see why I should be expected to take holiday time off work to babysit and “bond” all of a sudden, and I don’t see how I’m a monster for this…”
After contemplating things further, she decided to call her stepdaughter to see if they could smooth things over.
She admitted that she’s a “crazy bird lady” who really does love staying at home, and she offered to help her stepdaughter plan her wedding over video calls.
She then brought up a touchy subject; the fact that her stepdaughter has previously brushed off her attempts to really connect with her.
“We talked a bit, and I asked her why she hadn’t accepted me reaching out in the past, and she apologized and said she didn’t want to accept someone as a stand-in, “fake” replacement for her bio mom, but now she regrets it and would like a closer relationship, especially seeing how close her SO is with his mom,” she continued.
“We ended the conversation positively, and I’m hoping things can improve going forward. I told her I’m a crazy bird lady and asked her if she still wants a relationship knowing that, and she said that after the wedding, she’s willing to travel to visit us if we have room… which we do.”