But many others are really just hoping to find a true connection that leads to a real partnership. Still, in the process, they can fall victim to the situationship without even realizing it at first.
So, before opening up Tinder, heading out to the bar for some good old-fashioned in-person connection, or going on a first date, take stock of your intentions. If you are looking for a relationship, then refuse to just “go with the flow” and stop trying to pretend that you are chill with doing “whatever.”
If you are really ready to give your all to one person, then it is time to stop lying to yourself and realize that these happenstance situations are not how you will get there. Don’t accept the bare minimum or sacrifice your values.
Now, this all sounds great and empowering– but figuring out how to actually stay true to your intentions can also be daunting.
After all, you might be put into a situation where you really like a person and want to “change them.” Or, you may think that because you like them so much, your own intentions will change.
Quite frankly, though, this is unfair to both you and whoever you are dating. Being on such different pages can, first of all, lead to a lot of resentment and built-up tension.
And perhaps most importantly, no one should have to “change” in order for a relationship– or lack thereof– to finally “click.”
So, the best way to avoid getting caught up in a situationship this year is to start by being honest. Communicate what you are looking for upfront, and lay all of your cards out on the table. Then, how your potential partner responds to your transparency will be all the information you need.
If that person straight-up tells you they are “not looking for anything more right now,” then take their statement at face value and politely break it off.
Stop wondering about the “what-ifs” or allowing a situationship to go on in spite of the inevitable.
Moreover, avoid convincing yourself that your love interest may change their mind about “you”– because history has proven that your heart will just get broken twice over.