Katharina Buczek
So, how do you and your partner each handle stress? Likewise, how do you both cope, comfort, and show empathy toward others? Understanding how you both would work together in all sorts of situations– both “good” and “bad”– is key for determining if marriage is the best next step.
2. Do you and your partner want the same things in life?
Of course, no two people are exactly the same. Your ultimate goal may be to start a business, while your partner might want to have kids.
But, a critical thing to figure out before marriage is whether or not you and your partner’s goals can work together– and how you can both make it happen.
For instance, if you are dead-set on living abroad but your partner wants to stay in their hometown, someone is bound to be disappointed. So, in these situations, you have to ask yourself if you are willing to compromise or if your goals are just non-negotiable.
3. Do you and your partner share a strong foundation of friendship?
Some couples meet very quickly, fall head over heels, and immediately want to tie the knot. And there is nothing wrong with that. However, being married is not always so electrifying. Instead, after you walk down the aisle, your two “normal” lives will merge together to form a new one that is still pretty “normal.” The only difference is you are navigating it with someone you love.
And while living your perhaps “mundane” day-to-day– whether that be paying the bills, going furniture shopping, or making dinner– you will want a friend by your side.
So, ask yourself if there is true understanding, loyalty, and companionship in your relationship aside from the buzzing romantic energy– because when push comes to shove, which is inevitable in life, you will want a true friend there with you.
4. Do you and your partner have realistic expectations?
This question can apply to your expectations of each other or your expectations of your life together. But both are equally important.
