Katharina Buczek
At the same time, though, being super responsive also has its downfalls. If you make yourself constantly available and appear too eager, you run the risk of seeming clingy or desperate. And while it’s good to be upfront about your intentions for commitment, too much too soon is not a good thing.
After all, who enjoys feeling smothered? This can be a major turn-off, especially during the earlier stages of dating.
Instead, it’s important to strike a balance– finding that sweet between showing interest without making yourself too available.
So, the answer to whether or not you should ever play hard to get is that it depends. Every situation and person is different. Personal preferences are also at play.
If you find that you like someone but feel like they are taking you for granted, it could be beneficial to play a little hard to get.
This can show them that you are not willing to settle for anything less than you deserve and have other options on the market.
On the flip side, though, if you are seriously interested in someone and hope to pursue a committed relationship, it’s crucial that you are upfront with your interest.
Try to make plans, be available, and show your potential partner that you genuinely value their time. If you don’t and you continue playing games, you could potentially miss out on an awesome connection.
At the same time, it’s crucial to remember that playing hard to get can be emotionally exhausting on your mind, too. It usually requires a lot of effort in the form of self-restraint and is just not sustainable in the long term.
Eventually, you will have to let your guard down and allow another person in if you really want to forge a meaningful relationship.
But, if you keep putting on a facade, you may just end up attracting someone who is not really compatible with the real you.
