“But I can’t help but have that urge to want a relationship and imagine the things I would do with a partner,” she vented.
That’s why she recently turned to people online asking for any advice on how to change her mindset surrounding dating in order to take a break and just focus on herself. Some people encouraged her to use “healthy distractions” over the summer in order to find her own sense of happiness.
“If you have time to think or feel bad, then you have time to do something else that occupies your mind,” began Character_Bill_9535.
“Read. If you pray, pray. If you meditate, meditate. Have fun: play video games, watch movies, whatever. Do a hobby. Find a cause you’re passionate about. Try and change the world. Help homeless people. Volunteer. Devote yourself to your career or studies. Watch educational videos. Reach out to a friend. Reach out to family,” they continued.
“There’s so much to be doing. If you really, really don’t want to date, then pick any of those things and do them.”
Other people got the sense that she did really want a relationship, though. So, they urged her to stop looking so hard and placing so much pressure on herself.
“It seems like when you are trying to find a relationship, that’s when you have the most difficulty. When you stop trying so hard, it seems like that’s when you find someone,” explained Fun_Ambassador_8514.
“Don’t put so much pressure on yourself… Don’t settle or just get into a relationship just because it’s the socially acceptable thing to do. Those usually end badly. No relationship is better than being with the wrong person.”
Have you ever been in this young woman’s shoes? Do you agree that it’s harder to find a relationship with you’re trying too hard, or is that just a cliche? How do you suggest she change her mindset this summer?
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