Her Boyfriend Accused Her Of Eating Too Much On A Beautiful Vacation To France
Years ago, this 22-year-old woman struggled with an eating disorder– starving herself until she was severely underweight.
Her current 27-year-old boyfriend, who she has been with for three years now, knew about this, too. But for the past two years or so, she has been working on enjoying her “fear foods” without judging herself too harshly.
She is also now at a healthy weight– 135 pounds at five-foot-five– and typically goes to the gym once or twice a week.
She also goes bouldering once a week and is proud of herself for remaining active in the face of her current struggles with depression and anxiety.
However, her boyfriend has always been extremely fit– despite being underweight– and has been seriously obsessed with fitness over the past year. In fact, she claimed that all he really talks about now is fitness, and he goes to the gym constantly.
On top of that, her boyfriend recently began counting calories in hopes of gaining weight, and the habit has started to stress her out.
After all, she used to count calories to lose weight while struggling with her eating disorder, and her boyfriend doing it does trigger her a bit.
“I have told him this before, and he tries not to talk about calories too much anymore, but it still comes up about once a day,” she said.
For instance, he will point out when certain foods are a “weight gainer.” He also weighs himself at least two times every single day.
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But, right now, they are actually on vacation together in France, and when she is away on a trip, she really tries not to worry about her diet being healthy.
In the past, she would stress herself out so much that she wound up unable to actually enjoy her vacations. This time, though, she wanted things to be different.
And just yesterday, they were in an adorable little town– watching a gorgeous sunset– before sitting down for dinner at a cute restaurant.
Yet, after they sat down, she noticed that her boyfriend seemed tense and a bit angry. His demeanor just appeared off from the start, but they still had a nice time.
Still, while drinking a glass of wine, she decided to ask her boyfriend what was on his mind. And his response completely shocked her.
Out of nowhere, he claimed that she had been eating too much the day before and just in general lately!
“Mind you, we are on vacation, and the day he was referring to, I ate a quarter of a baguette with cream cheese and an egg for breakfast, like 100 grams of pasta with some pesto for lunch, and for dinner, we went out, and I had a pulled pork burger,” she explained.
“Maybe a bit much, but hey, it’s not every day you’re in France.”
Regardless, her boyfriend claimed he was worried that she would eventually “let herself go” if they ever had children. He also tried to say it was just important to be attracted to a partner.
Now, she did agree with that, but she also pointed out how attraction goes beyond just appearance. Plus, who knows what could happen in the future?
There is always the possibility of her experiencing an accident or developing an illness, which could make her unable to remain as “fit” as her boyfriend wants.
“Also, I told him I think it’s a bit absurd to visit one of the most beautiful places on Earth and be so obsessed with what your partner eats that it stops you from enjoying a beautiful dinner with a view of the sea,” she added.
Still, her boyfriend just refused to back down. Throughout the entire dinner, he kept insisting that she eats too much and that her metabolism would eventually slow.
Her boyfriend then doubled down on the pregnancy comments and said that as they get older, he doesn’t think she will take care of herself– especially if they have children.
She refused to accept those horrible comments, though, and told her boyfriend that if she ever wanted to have children, then she would want someone by her side who supported her as her entire body underwent changes– not someone who judged and compared her.
Anyway, the argument only escalated after that, and she wound up having one of the worst dinners of her entire life. She was just trying to keep herself from crying, and even that didn’t work.
“I told him I was disappointed in him being that shallow, and he said that’s just how he is, and he is entitled to wanting to find his partner attractive,” she recalled.
“Which, sure, but also, why are you on vacation with me, spending your time worrying about whether I might gain weight or not in five to 10 years?”
Since this trainwreck of dinner, she cannot stop thinking about how her boyfriend seriously crossed her boundaries.
She knows that she is not overweight whatsoever, can eat anything she wants, and simply wants to enjoy herself on vacation.
Not to mention, she simply cannot imagine obsessing so much over what her boyfriend ate that she wasn’t able to enjoy the trip.
Her boyfriend did later apologize for his remarks. But honestly, the apology did not really change her feelings.
“I am just so baffled and really ashamed and embarrassed to eat anything in front of him since,” she vented.
“I am trying to enjoy the rest of the vacation, but honestly, I am just really sad.”
How would you feel if your boyfriend said these horrible things to you? Does it sound like he genuinely cares about her, or is he too self-consumed? Would you stay with your partner after this?
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