She Had To Break The News To Her Sister That Her Boyfriend Isn’t Invited To Her Wedding, Because Their Relationship Started As An Affair And He’s Also Not A Nice Guy
This 29-year-old woman had to break the unfortunate news to her sister, 28, that her boyfriend is not allowed to come to her upcoming wedding. Her sister, who she’d chosen as the maid of honor, didn’t take the news well.
In response to hearing this, her sister was incredibly angry, refusing to attend her bachelorette and bridal parties, and hasn’t done anything to help with the wedding planning process.
Her sister feels like it’s unfair, considering that other people are bringing partners that they’ve been dating for a shorter time than her sister and her boyfriend.
But she has understandable reasons for not wanting her sister’s boyfriend at the wedding, and that includes the way the relationship started in the first place, eight months prior.
“When they met, she was already engaged to her partner of 10 plus years, whom all of my family loved deeply. She met her new boyfriend at work. She was engaged, and he was married. Essentially, they both had affairs and left their partners to be with each other,” she explained.
Even though their relationship started off as an affair, her sister and her boyfriend basically live together.
They have gone on trips together, and her sister wants to marry him someday. However, he’s still in the process of divorcing his wife.
Not only does she not like her sister’s boyfriend because of the way their relationship started, but she also doesn’t like who he is as a person.
She asked him what his intentions were and why he broke up with his wife. According to him, his wife had forced him into a relationship, and he didn’t believe in love until he met her sister. She wasn’t buying it and felt like his words were both “immature” and “manipulative.”
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Also, she is concerned about who her sister is becoming within this new relationship.
“His values are completely different than my sister’s. I believe opposites attract, but on fundamental things that I know my sister feels passionate about, she seems to have made herself smaller and more agreeable to some crazy views,” she shared.
As an example, she said that her sister’s boyfriend has negative views toward people who struggle financially.
Despite not liking her sister’s boyfriend, she feels conflicted because of her worry about the potentially unhealthy relationship her sister is in.
“My sister is turning into someone no one in my family can recognize. However, I don’t want to lose her if it means having to accept this guy into our family. Being isolated in a toxic relationship is a scary place to be in, and I fear that if I don’t invite him into the fold, she will follow him out the door,” she said.
Also, since no one outside of the immediate family knows about her sister’s infidelity or her sister’s new boyfriend, she said that she doesn’t want people to continuously ask her what happened to her sister throughout the entire wedding.
Truthfully, she didn’t think her sister would have wanted her boyfriend at the wedding since their father also had said he didn’t want her sister’s boyfriend to attend the wedding.
But her sister didn’t ask about her boyfriend’s wedding invitation until after table placement charts and a catering count were sent out.
Apparently, her sister wanted the wedding to be the “big reveal” of her new boyfriend since no one outside of their immediate family had yet met him.
But she still can’t help feeling hurt that her sister hasn’t been supportive during the wedding process as a maid of honor.
She is also the first of her siblings to get married, so it’s a special time for the entire family, and she would understandably want all of her family’s support.
Even though her mother also doesn’t support her sister’s behavior, she’s sympathetic and thinks that she should invite her sister’s boyfriend to the wedding.
Do you think she should have allowed her sister’s boyfriend to attend her wedding?
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