Sitting down and reflecting on what went wrong during the date is not a bad idea. Even better, it would help if you wrote it down. Think about what this person did that made you uncomfortable and what made you realize it wasn’t going to work out.
Reflecting and writing down a few notes from your date will help remind you what kind of people and personalities you’re really into and can help you weed out future bad dates.
Focus on your other relationships.
If a really bad date has you shaken up, then it might be a good idea to connect with and feel grateful for the actual solid relationships you have in your life. Instead of immediately trying to go on a new date, call up your best friend and go out to dinner with them. You don’t even have to talk about your date if you don’t want to!
Spending time with and practicing gratitude for the people you already have in your life and who love you can really help ease the blow of a bad date.
Don’t lose your confidence.
It’s important to enter and leave every date, good or bad, with confidence. Remember that you’re a catch and in control of your dating life. So what if you didn’t connect with that person? It doesn’t mean you’re not still worthy of someone who makes you happy. Shake off the bad date and remember that you’re no less of a catch than you were when you walked into the date.
Own your actions
It can be really easy to replay a bad date in your mind and wish you could rephrase everything you said. But spending time trying to change the past wastes time in the end. On your date, there was most likely nothing you did or said wrong. Simply own your actions and let the date go.
Don’t let it hold you back.
It can be easy to fall into a pit of self-doubt and fear after a bad date. Suddenly, you may be too scared to go on a new one, fearing it’ll go south. That’s a classic example of letting the past hold you back.