She Planned To Paint Her First Daughter’s Nursery Pink, But Her Friend Berated Her And Accused Her Of Putting Her Child’s Development At Risk By Stereotyping Her Daughter
This 21-year-old woman is currently 29 weeks pregnant with her daughter. For the baby’s nursery, she was planning to paint it pink and white.
She and her husband thought this would be a good idea for the early years of their daughter’s life, and as she grew up and developed her own likes and dislikes, they could allow her to decide what color to paint her room.
While she and her husband thought this color combination would be adorable and not too difficult for them to paint, one of her close friends thought it was a terrible idea.
“She immediately said that I was putting my daughter’s future and development at risk,” she said.
According to her friend, the color pink was a stereotypically feminine color, and her daughter shouldn’t grow up thinking that she needs to like the color pink just because she’s a girl.
In response, she laughed because she thought her friend was joking, but it turned out that she wasn’t.
“She went on to tell me that my daughter will grow up to believe that she has to be girly because her own mother forced her to grow up in a room where she has no expression other than pink and girly colors,” she explained.
After her friend said this, she argued back that this was ludicrous and that she wouldn’t make her daughter act girly against her will.
Plus, she told her that it didn’t make sense that her daughter would feel forced into acting girly simply because her mother chose to paint her nursery pink before she was even born.
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Their discussion came to a close when her friend reiterated that she thought she was making the wrong choice, asking her to change her mind about the colors she chose to paint the nursery.
Her friend added that during these first few years of the baby’s life, she would be soaking in the world and her environment, and it would be only girly and pink colors.
Even though, at first, she thought her friend’s opinions were a bit out there, upon reflection, she’s now starting to agree. This will be her first child, and she obviously doesn’t want to harm her daughter’s growth or development at all.
“It is true that she will be impressionable during these years of her life and might grow up to look back and think that I was trying to force her into a stereotype,” she shared.
“On top of that, a light color like pink might affect her sleeping at night and during a nap and ruin her sleeping pattern.”
She is also concerned that if her daughter’s room is all one color, it won’t allow her daughter to experience or see any other colors.
Since her daughter wouldn’t be of school age for a few years, she wants to get a jump start on her daughter’s learning skills. Her husband told her that she was making too big of a deal about it and he doesn’t think the color of the nursery matters that much.
However, she thinks that her friend’s opinion holds a bit of weight. Understandably, she wants her daughter to have the best opportunities to grow, learn, and be healthy, and she hopes to do her best to avoid causing any emotional damage or instilling any toxic gender stereotypes.
What advice would you give her?
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