She Plans To Buy Her Teen Son A Car Soon, But Her Husband Is Upset And Also Wants Her To Buy Each Of Her Stepchildren Cars For Christmas, As Well As Top Off Their College Funds
This woman and her husband signed a prenup before they got married with a lot of stipulations.
They came to an agreement that they would each financially support their own children that they had from prior relationships.
Unfortunately, her husband’s ex-wife constantly used him for money. Plus, she preferred for their finances to be kept separate, anyway.
Since their finances are separate, she and her husband also pay their own bills, while they split the groceries and mortgage 40/60.
Her husband pays 60% of these expenses, and she pays the other 40%. They agreed upon this because she has one child, and her husband has two.
“I understand that to some people, it might seem a bit roommate-ish, but I’ve loved it, and I think it works out great. I don’t care about the money he wastes golfing because it’s his money, not mine. And I can get expensive sushi all the time. Growing up, my parents would always yell at each other about finances, nitpicking each other’s spending,” she said.
She was in graduate school, and her husband worked in finance when they got married.
Her husband has since lost the job he had, in which he made an impressive income, so now he makes 50% less than what he used to.
On the other hand, her career has only progressed over the years.
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Her son will be 15 pretty soon, and as of late, he has been asking her if she can purchase him a Model 3 Tesla.
“I plan on getting it for him because I think he deserves it. My husband recently came to me upset because my son was talking about how excited he is to get a car. That upset his stepsiblings, who haven’t and won’t be getting cars,” she explained.
After finding out her plans to buy her son a vehicle, her husband told her that he wanted them to alter the way they split up their household expenses.
Instead of the original 40/60 split, her husband asked if she could pay 80% while he paid only 20%.
His logic behind this was that he makes significantly less than he used to, and he still has to pay his ex-wife a significant amount of money in child support.
“He isn’t able to golf or live the same lifestyle as before. He also wants me to buy each of my stepchildren a car this Christmas. I basically told him he’s out of his mind, and he complains that his ex-wife used him for cash and made him pay all the bills, but that’s what he’s trying to do to me,” she shared.
Once she explained to her husband that he was being a hypocrite, he didn’t have anything to say in response, but now he won’t speak to her.
She thinks it’s ironic that her husband never had a problem with how they split up their expenses when she was making a lot less than he did, but now that she’s making more than he is, he suddenly wants everything to change.
In her view, she’s a great role model to her stepchildren, and they all have a close bond.
She often attends events for the sports they’re involved in, and she plans birthday parties for them.
But since her stepchildren have a biological mother and father who can take care of them, she doesn’t want to step on anyone’s toes by doing too much.
Their children all understand that her husband will pay for his own children’s cars and college tuition while she is financially responsible for paying for her son’s.
Her stepchildren feel like their father let them down because all of their friend’s fathers have purchased them fancy cars.
Apparently, this made her husband angry. From her perspective, she doesn’t believe it’s absolutely necessary for all children to have vehicles or college savings, and she clarified that these are things that children should feel grateful to have if their families are able to afford to buy them cars or pay for their college educations.
Now, she thinks that her husband should either get a better-paying job so that he can buy cars for his children or, at the very least, stop complaining about her choosing to buy her son a car.
What would you do if you were in her shoes?
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