Her Husband Is Jealous That Hot Younger Guys Are Throwing Themselves At Her Now That They Have An Open Marriage
This 35-year-old woman’s 40-year-old husband recently told her that because she’s not meeting his wants or needs, he has to have an open marriage, and she agreed to this.
Mainly, this all stemmed from them not being on quite the same page when it comes to their love life.
Her husband is quite adventurous, while she is really not. She’s fine with being physical once a week or so, but her husband expects the timeline to be whenever he feels like it.
She likes emotional affection and sensitivity, which also doesn’t align with her husband’s preferences.
She is also aware that even though she is still exceptionally attracted to her husband, he’s no longer that attracted to her.
“He told me he needed his needs met, and I couldn’t fulfill them,” she explained. “We opened up the relationship.”
Her husband was interested in sleeping with other women, and he told her she should “go find affection somewhere else.”
She tried out a couple of dating apps but found the men she met there only wanted to hook up. She was looking for real affection and romance or just guys to be friends with.
She realized guys her own age were only interested in flings or women far younger than her, but weirdly enough, younger guys were more into the affection part of a relationship.
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She met her current partner, who is young and hot, through a hobby they both have an interest in. She admits this guy is totally out of her league too, and she’s impressed she could land him.
She and her husband haven’t been connecting at all since opening up their marriage, but she is forming a genuine bond with her new partner.
He needs a ton of her time and her affection, too, and he likes it when she gives him a lot of attention.
Honestly, her partner is starting to get a little territorial over her, and her husband is obviously getting jealous of her ability to land an attractive, youthful man.
While her partner is territorial, she says he’s not jealous of her husband. However, her husband’s envious side is showing, and he’s always talking about how her partner is constantly at their house.
The arrangement she has with her husband is she can use their home to have her partner over, and her husband has a separate apartment for his flings.
“Finally, I talked with my husband [about] why he feels emasculated,” she said. “He says he is over [being jealous] about me. But he is jealous about [my] partners.”
“He says that my partner and the men I attract are far more attractive than I should have been able to get. It made no sense as I have aged and don’t look as attractive as I did back when I was 20.”
“Meanwhile, he should be at the peak of his attractiveness. He is very put together, and he expected that as an attractive older man with disposable cash women would be flocking to him. They do, but he doesn’t like them for various reasons.”
Ultimately, her husband is mad that all these young and good-looking men are essentially throwing themselves at her, and he clearly doesn’t think she’s attractive enough for the math to back out on this.
She believes whatever it is her husband is searching for out there, it can’t possibly be one woman, as he’s just seeking out everything he desires, and that can’t really be found.
Objectively speaking, her standards are pretty insane, yet she found the man she was looking for. In contrast, her husband feels as if he is not looking for much, but he always goes through women quickly over small issues he finds with them.
Her husband does not like any woman that he has found, and she’s not really sure how to help him with this problem.
“Attractive young women want him to spend a lot of cash,” she continued. “They’re not interested in an equal relationship and expect him to spoil them. They’re bratty and entitled.”
Her husband also has complained to her that young women he meets who aren’t after his money have various mental health problems.
Or young women who were adventurous like him were straight-up ugly. Or any time he found a suitable mistress, she would walk away upon finding out he’s in an open marriage.
“My husband and I both thought that I would only get men interested in no strings…one night stands, which I would not be interested in, rather than a close, affectionate, frankly committed relationship that I desired and filtered for,” she added.
“Surprisingly, there were men who wanted the latter…[My husband] is a very handsome man and has been with several women since we opened up.”
“A lot of women are attracted to him. He has…beautiful women…accomplished women. He should be happy. At this point, I think he’s just looking for something to be unhappy about. There is no perfect partner who meets his requirements.”
What advice do you have for her?
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