His Postpartum Wife Kept Calling Him Fat And Telling Him He Needed To Get Back In The Gym, So He Told Her The Same Thing And She Ran Off Crying
This 32-year-old man unfortunately grew up being bullied by his peers because of his higher weight. His mother didn’t offer him any helpful solutions for how to lose weight, but when he went off to college, he started his weight loss journey, and he gained muscle over time. Currently, at 6’5”, he weighs 240 pounds.
He and his wife started dating when they were 25, and six months ago, his wife gave birth to their first child, a son. Understandably, having a baby can be a stressful and overwhelming adjustment, and his wife has been struggling with all the work raising their son entails.
She’s a stay-at-home mother, but there have been several mornings when she asked if he could take the day off of work because she was desperately in need of sleep, and she couldn’t get their son to stop crying at times.
Luckily, their son usually slept through most of the night, but sometimes, he would wake up crying in the mornings when he was getting up to get ready for work. He took turns checking on their son when he woke up throughout the night, too.
He’s been assisting in the childcare as much as possible after he comes home from work, so he hasn’t been going to the gym like he used to.
Since their son was born, he’s gained roughly between 25 and 30 pounds, but this doesn’t bother him since he still feels confident about how his body looks. He plans to start going to the gym again when their son has a more consistent sleep schedule, and his wife is more rested.
“She’s recently been telling me that I’m getting fat and I’m not as attractive as before,” he said.
At first, he was able to ignore her remarks, but she repeatedly made rude comments about his weight gain, and it got to the point where he could no longer ignore them.
Understandably, it was hurtful to hear his wife say these things about his body, especially when he was bullied as a child and worked so hard to feel more comfortable with himself. He expressed to his wife that her remarks were upsetting, and she assured him that she wouldn’t make those comments anymore, but she continued to do so.
Iona – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Eventually, he warned her that if she wouldn’t quit making cruel comments about his weight, then he would make mean remarks back to her.
“So, on Monday, she had called me ‘fatty’ and said that I needed to hit the gym before she called my old classmates. I said, ‘I need to hit the gym. It’s been six months since you’ve had the baby. You should not be looking like that. She ran off, crying,” he explained.
He hasn’t told his wife he’s sorry yet because he’s unsure whether or not he was in the wrong for what he said.
“She has not had any body issues in the past. She always feels like whatever weight she is is what weight she is,” he shared.
Plus, he adores her body and thinks it’s gorgeous. The only reason he made such rude comments was as payback and retaliation for what she said, and he’d warned her ahead of time that he would do so, but she didn’t take him seriously.
What advice would you give him?
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