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It’s Not A Bad Thing To Wear Your Heart On Your Sleeve, But Growing A Thicker Skin Can Help You Hold Your Head High And Move Past Tough Life Moments

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Do you want to know something that always bugged me as a kid? When I’d get upset after someone teased me or made me feel bad, an adult would tell me, “You need to grow a thicker skin.”

I’d get so angry whenever I was told that because I always felt that being picked on by other kids, whether it was for how I looked or something I said, was one of the most hurtful things in the world, and there was no need for me to toughen up.

While yes, you’re allowed to be sad when something doesn’t go your way, or someone does something hurtful, it shouldn’t force your world to come tumbling down.

I think that’s the point the adults in my life were trying to make. I needed thicker skin so that the next time something like that happened, I wouldn’t fall apart and become as distraught as I was at the moment. Instead, I needed to get stronger, hold my head up, and move on.

However, growing thick skin and moving past drama or heartbreak is easier said than done. That’s especially true if you’ve always been a more sensitive person like myself (Pisces problems!).

If you’ve always struggled to follow someone’s advice when they tell you to grow a thicker skin or need help moving past moments where you feel beat down, here are some tips for you.

First things first, remind yourself that not everyone is going to like you. People pleasers are the ones that have the hardest time growing a thick skin and getting past rejection. You can’t be everybody’s ‘cup of tea,’ and you can’t be everyone’s best friend.

There’s a good chance that several times in your life, you’ll meet someone who doesn’t like you and makes it obvious they don’t like you.

Instead of trying to win their affection, only to get hurt in the end, distance yourself and accept that’s the way things are. Focus on those who do love you!

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