She Went On Two Dates With A Guy And Made Him Cry When She Ended Things Over The Phone
This woman met a guy online, and in the span of three weeks, they texted quite frequently and even spoke on the phone two or three times.
They then went out on their first date, and it wasn’t exactly terrible, though she could tell this guy was far more into her than she was into him.
On that first date, he was talking about her meeting his family and friends, which felt like too much for her.
“I thought maybe it was just nerves/overenthusiasm, so [I] wanted to give it another chance,” she explained.
“I’m a bit of a slow burner, so I thought maybe I was the problem. We had a chat about it a few days later; I explained that I was not feeling the same as him at the moment, that I wasn’t sure if it would progress beyond friendship, but that I was happy to meet again to see how it goes.”
After she said that to him and before their second date happened, she had to tell him he was being too intense, as he once more was bringing up plans for their future and meeting his loved ones.
Then, on their second date, the mood was more chill, and he backed off like she had wanted him to.
She thought about him for several days after that and came to the conclusion that she didn’t feel their relationship was headed anywhere. So, she called him to tell him this.
“He got very upset, cried, and didn’t understand how I could just “know” that we couldn’t be more than friends,” she said.
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“He asked to continue meeting as just friends and see if anything came from that, to which I responded that I didn’t think it was very wise and would just lead to him being more hurt.”
“The conversation lasted nearly an hour, with him pushing for reasons (I tried not to be too specific as I didn’t want to hurt him further) and then trying to convince me that those reasons weren’t true. He was also upset that I was fine and not emotional about it.”
She finally ended the phone call, and things between them, by clearly stating to him that they were done and it was better for his sake that he stopped reaching out to her.
She feels awful over the whole thing, and it pains her that she hurt him by being honest. She’s left wondering if there is a better way for her to handle something like this if it comes up again in the future.
What advice do you have for her?
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