This 44-year-old woman has twin 10-year-old sons with her ex-husband. Sadly, her ex had an affair, and after she divorced him, he and the woman he had an affair with had two children together (a daughter, now 5, and a son, now 6). Her ex-husband eventually married the woman he cheated with.
Even though this was understandably painful for her, she and her ex-husband agreed to be cordial with each other so that they could effectively co-parent their sons.
While she legally has sole custody, she and her ex came up with their own custody arrangement outside of the courts. She has custody of their sons during the week, and her ex-husband has custody on the weekends. This arrangement went pretty smoothly.
Whenever her ex-husband came over to pick up the twins, he sometimes brought his other kids along, who seemed great. His wife barely talked to her, but she was cordial and kind to the twins, which was fine with her. Last year, her ex-husband’s wife tragically passed away, and he was overwhelmed with grief.
“My sons were worried about their siblings. So, I spoke to my ex, and he said they were fine. My sons asked if they could have their siblings stay over, and after asking my ex, he was okay with it,” she said.
After this, her sons’ half-siblings constantly came to her house. Luckily, it seemed like it was helpful for her ex-husband to have time to work on his mental health and healing.
Once it seemed like her ex was coping with his grief in better ways, she asked him to take care of his kids more often since she realized that his kids seemed emotionally attached to her. He agreed.
However, her ex-husband’s kids have since been asking him if they can go back to her house to see their half-siblings.
Her ex asked her if she’d be willing to get together with him and his kids so that all the children could hang out. She said yes to this idea initially, but upon reflection, she doesn’t think it’s a good idea.