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She Put Her Daughter In A Group Home So She Could Start Enjoying Her Job And Life More, But Now Her Loved Ones Are Giving Her Grief For Leaving Her Daughter Behind

Sandu - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

Many parents have had to make the terribly difficult decision to place their children with special needs into group homes or special facilities in order for them to get the care they need.

One woman recently had to make that decision after spending the last 20 years trying to provide the best care for her autistic daughter with no help.

She’s 48-years-old and describes her 20-year-old daughter as severely autistic. The last two decades have been dedicated to taking care of her daughter as she grew up.

Her ex-husband, her daughter’s father, divorced her when her daughter was only four years old and did not seek any custody of her. Instead, he opted for visitation but only visited her seven times in the eight years after their divorce.

Since then, she’s been a single mom, working and raising her daughter alone.

“I got myself back into the workplace, and I now work for a real estate investment company with offices here and abroad, but I was still overwhelmed working and dealing with my daughter’s needs,” she said.

“I’ve had to deal with everybody else’s two cents about all these ‘resources’ available. They’d spend two seconds [copying] and pasting their search results under ‘help for autistic parents’ and expect me to come back a day later and tell them they’ve solved all my problems with their research. The problem is they aren’t witnessing the wait lists, under-staffing, under-funding, and everything else that stands in the way of help.”

She’s sacrificed so much to help her daughter grow and develop, giving up any form of a social or romantic life, and has even had to turn down advancements in her career to be there for her.

Thankfully, when her daughter was 16, her ex-husband started coming back around, and they decided that when she turned 18, things needed to change. Her ex started helping her figure out how to get her daughter disability payments and provided her with research on group homes.

Sandu – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

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