She’s Threatening To Leave Her Fiancé If He Continues Competing In Bodybuilding

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This 28-year-old woman and her fiancé, who is 30, have been together for four years, and four months ago, they also got engaged.

Ever since they first met, her fiancé has always done bodybuilding as a hobby. Then, two years ago, he began competing in bodybuilding competitions.

But, more recently, she’s been getting sick and tired of dealing with the demands of competitive bodybuilding, which she believes is a “wildly selfish sport.”

“It encompasses three to four hours per day in the gym – excluding AM fasted cardio – six to eight scheduled pre-prepped meals per day, intense mental fortitude, rigorous stress on the body, injecting steroids, and generally one’s life gets put on hold for 14 to 30 weeks at a time,” she explained.

Aside from bodybuilding, her fiancé is also a fitness trainer online and has garnered enough followers to be a small social media influencer. So, his whole world revolves around fitness.

She’s always supported his aspirations in the fitness industry, too, both mentally and even financially. Lately, it’s all been paying off since her fiancé now earns more than she does – and she already makes a high income in her field.

Still, she can’t help but feel exhausted from bodybuilding. Throughout the past year and a half of their relationship, her fiancé has been in “prep” for competitions about 75% of the time. And while his passion has never wavered, she is seriously burnt out.

“I deleted my Instagram because I get tired of the constant vapid posts,” she revealed.

“He’s a true menace during prep – constantly overstimulated, cranky, constantly in pain, can’t help me around the house, can’t engage in any [romance], can’t even be touched hardly, can’t hold a conversation.”

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Yet, she is still expected to help her fiancé through every step of his prep period. Plus, whenever she has a mental breakdown over it, he just promises her that everything will “get better after prep.”

To be clear, that is true. However, it’s just a ticking time bomb until the next prep cycle begins, and she’s faced with the same situation again.

That’s why she finally hit her breaking point recently and admitted that she couldn’t stay with her fiancé through yet another bodybuilding competition.

“This has to be the last one, or I’m out,” she told her fiancé.

Well, her fiancé thought that wasn’t fair since she knew what she was signing up for when they first began dating. Not to mention, she once even enjoyed bodybuilding as a sport, too.

“And I feel bad for changing my mind and choosing to no longer support his passion, but I also can’t imagine doing this forever,” she vented.

Still, she’s not sure if no longer supporting her fiancé’s bodybuilding career and threatening to leave him if he didn’t stop competing was really the wrong thing to do.

Would you be able to remain in a relationship with someone whose entire life revolves around bodybuilding? Was she wrong for giving her fiancé an ultimatum or not? 

You can read the original post on Reddit here.

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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