Friend Group Fallout Can Be Sudden And Terrifying: Here’s How To Cope With The Changing Dynamic

Remember that everything isn’t meant to stay the same

I remember panicking when I started losing touch with some of the girlfriends I had in middle school and elementary school. We didn’t stop hanging out because we didn’t like each other anymore; we simply grew apart and lost touch.

Then, I was reminded that not everything is meant to stay the same. Sometimes, friend groups are supposed to be in our lives for only a certain period. I think that’s why so many of us had really close friend groups during our childhood days, as we were all experiencing so many of the same things.

During this time, it’s important to remember that while everything can’t stay the same, as time goes on, we will have new people to meet and new adventures to go on with them.

Don’t compare yourself to others

When you lose a group of friends, it can be really easy to compare yourself to other people who are still in a close-knit friend group. Some of the best advice I can give you is not to do that.

One of my favorite helpful quotes is, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When we compare ourselves to others and make ourselves all upset, it’s like we’re looking for ways to make ourselves feel bad.

You never know what another friend group is going through, so do yourself a favor and don’t beat yourself up when you see other people in your life hanging out with groups of friends.

Consider that being in a friend group isn’t for you

If you recently lost a friend group or decided to stop hanging out with one, analyze your history with friend groups and the place you are now. Consider that there is the possibility that a friend group might not be for you.

For some reason, social norms have made us think we’re only cool and hip if we have an entire group of friends we see all the time versus a handful of friends we see individually. However, constantly hanging out and managing a group of friends isn’t for everyone. In fact, groups can cause a lot of stress for people.

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