Bre Avery Zacharski
“He told my parents that he would propose by the end of the year. Come the end of the year, my family would ask about the ring and poke fun, “So when’s it happening?” He did not like that.”
Her boyfriend likes to do everything in his own time and doesn’t appreciate being pushed to go faster.
What bothers her is that her boyfriend told her and her family one thing: the engagement would happen by a specific date, and then it didn’t.
She asked her parents to stop talking about engagement plans, and they respected her wishes. A few months ago, her boyfriend did pay off his debt, so she took him out to help celebrate that achievement.
“We discussed the engagement again, and I told him I don’t want an expensive ring; even $200 would be fine,” she added.
“He said we can have the wedding next year, the same day as our anniversary because he doesn’t want to celebrate it on any other day.”
She pointed out to her boyfriend that she would also be quite happy with a tiny wedding that only includes their immediate family members, but he said he preferred a huge wedding.
Ever since that convo, she anticipated her boyfriend would pick their anniversary date to propose, as it takes a year to plan a wedding.
Their anniversary came and went two months ago, and still no ring. She’s so disappointed that she’s beginning to resent her boyfriend.
“I find myself bringing it up more and more and questioning: would I prefer him or marriage?” she wondered.
“I love him so so much; he’s the most amazing man to me, but I don’t want to have to choose; I want marriage with him. He’s my best friend. It just broke my heart when I asked if he would want to get married now – because I would sign the papers tomorrow, and then we can finally move in together – and he said he wouldn’t want to get married right now because he wants to save for a wedding.”
