Bre Avery Zacharski
“He doesn’t feel comfortable working with anyone else. And the invoicing does take a bit of time, but it’s really no big deal. And he doesn’t get paid unless he does it. But over and over, he just is months late and starts to run out of money (he also has issues with budgeting).”
“I find this stressful, and it often affects me (sometimes he needs to borrow some money just until he gets paid). Each day, I’ll ask him if he’s invoiced, and he’ll reply, “Nope.” But he manages to go get his hair dyed. Or go get a massage. Or go to the dentist. Or yoga.”
She’s sick and tired of doling out so much sympathy to him. Her fiancé acts like a total child when faced with any kind of responsibility, and if she calls him out, he replies that he’s successful at his job.
While this is a fact, he can’t budget, so that prevents him from being wealthy. She’s so beyond irritated that calling off the wedding is looking better every day.
Not only that; it’s crossed her mind to dump him too. She can’t tell if there’s some kind of solution she’s missing or if she has every right to want to walk away.
She grapples with telling herself to exercise more patience while also acknowledging that her fiancé is behaving in an absurd way and not like an adult.
What advice do you have for her?
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