He’s Worried That The Relationship His Girlfriend Has With Her Old High School Teacher Is Weird

ASDF - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
ASDF - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

For the last 9 months, this 26-year-old man has been dating his 23-year-old girlfriend, and things are going great so far.

Humor is a big part of their relationship, and they like to tease each other about things. One of the things his girlfriend likes to joke around about is that she’s interested in older guys.

He figured that was just harmless until his girlfriend’s old high school teacher came into the picture. Well, this guy was always in the picture; he just didn’t quite know the extent.

“Here’s the situation: back when my girlfriend was in high school, she had a teacher who really helped her get through one of her classes,” he explained.

“This teacher thought she was like his prodigy; basically, my girlfriend was his favorite student.”

His girlfriend is about to graduate college and is in her last year, but this teacher was a big part of her life from 16 through 18.

He just thinks it’s super weird that his girlfriend still maintains a connection with her teacher, who is currently in his 40s.

He doesn’t quite see a reason for them to still be in touch, and he’s concerned that his girlfriend’s teacher thinks there could be something more there.

His girlfriend has her teacher’s number saved on her phone, and they text and call one another from time to time.

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“At first, I thought he must’ve just been a really close mentor,” he said. “He will message her, saying, “I still have some of your work in my classroom that I’ve been showing the other students. Do you want me to hold onto it?”

“Because my girlfriend is going to be graduating at the end of the year, he has been messaging her saying, “let me know if you need a job here at the school” etc., etc.”

“Now, at this point, I thought, ok. The teacher is just being nice and helping out a past student. Now, it gets weirder. My girlfriend attended a wedding, and while she was at the wedding, she got a phone call from the teacher. He was asking about some work opportunities at the school, and the conversation went like this.”

His girlfriend’s teacher mentioned to his girlfriend that he thought she would be a great fit for an open position they have at the high school and asked if she would like to drop by to talk about the role.

His girlfriend responded that she was attending a wedding, to which her teacher asked why she hadn’t said she was getting married.

His girlfriend added that she was at a wedding for one of her family members, and her teacher jokingly wanted to know why he wasn’t invited too.

Following that little chat, his girlfriend informed him of it, and she told all of her friends about the exchange as well.

His girlfriend’s friends think that her teacher was pretty much flirting with her, and his girlfriend did not deny that.

It made his heart stop when she said that she does have “daddy issues” and is interested in older guys.

“Obviously, this was all in a joking nature,” he said. “But it all just annoys me. I don’t want him on her phone; it’s gross to me. I don’t want her getting a job in that school because I will think every day [about] what’s happening between them.”

“I don’t like that his Facebook profile comes up in her suggested. I don’t like any of it. And it makes me so, SO very uncomfortable. I know she would never cheat…but…if you did, please cheat with some young model-looking man in a rock band or something.”

“Not your old high school teacher crush [who] is in his 40s [and] changed his profile picture from him and his wife to him and his dog, “which must mean he’s single” (not my words). I’m just wondering what I can possibly do in this situation.”

What advice do you have for him?

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