This Popular TikTok Therapist Revealed One Important Way To Determine If Your Relationship Will Fail Or Work Out
You may have heard the term “bidding” regarding emotional connections between you and your partner frequently on social media. Recently, there has been a lot of attention on this term and how it affects most relationships.
An emotional bid can be verbal or nonverbal behaviors. For example, we may be searching for attention while being vague in conversations with our spouses.
Verbal bids include how you say things that involve observations or sharing of interest. A nonverbal bid includes facial expressions or gestures.
Whether your partner provides you with either form of these particular bids, how you respond is extremely important and goes a long way.
A TikToker, @your_pocket_therapist, is a psychotherapist who discusses mental health, trauma, and relationships through short clips on her page to 175,000 followers.
She provides education and insight on everything from emotionally immature parents, depression, rejection, obsession, etc.
The video that drove us to highlight her account includes her take on bidding in relationships for attention.
She starts her video off by explaining that an experiment showed how couples respond to bidding within their relationship will determine the timeline of how long they will stay together.
TikTok; pictured above is @your_pocket_therapist
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Like we said before, a bid is an attempt to connect with your partner. I’m sure we have all done this at some point throughout our relationship, whether we meant to or not, and may not have noticed this call to action.
The TikToker lists examples such as “look how pretty that tree is” or sighing and wanting your partner to ask if you are okay.
This experiment has shown that couples who respond positively to bids for attention are 80% more likely to stay together in a year than those who choose to respond negatively or not at all.
Some who receive a negative reaction consider it better to be single than unseen.
It’s important to note that attention bids are not always negative and can help and save your relationship as it provides a way to connect emotionally with your partner.
Dishing out an emotional bid is a great way to tell if your partner is interested in you or not. Do they walk away, ignore you, or respond with no emotion?
If so, you may want to find someone willing to give you the time of day to make you feel heard, seen, and special!
Life’s too short. It’s time to only allow those who genuinely care about you to stick around in your life!
@your_pocket_therapist Do you and your partner (or person you like) do this? #relationshiptips #therapytiktok #mentalhealth #attachment
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