She’s About To Be The Maid of Honor In Her Dad’s Wedding And Her Mom Sobbed When She Found Out
An 18-year-old girl was asked to be the maid of honor for her father’s, 38, wedding to her future step-mom, 29, and her 41-year-old mother freaked out.
According to this girl, her mother was abusive to her father while they were married. Her mother was an absentee during her entire life.
To top off the self-centered personality that her mother has, she cheated on her father during their marriage.
During the divorce proceedings, she requested that her father get full custody of her. Then she cut her mother out of her life.
“She destroyed whatever was left of us as a family. I didn’t want her in my life anymore,” she said.
A year after her mom and dad got divorced, her father met his fiancée. Her father was finally with someone that made him visibly happy.
As a child of divorce, I can relate to her a lot. Though my birth parents divorced when I was a baby, my mother has been the happiest I’ve seen her with my stepdad. He’s been my dad for almost 23 years, and I just turned 24 this past March.
Sometimes the people that chose to be in your life, are better than the ones that had a part in your creation.
“For the past 3 years, my dad’s fiancée pretty much grew to be my best friend,” she continued.
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“She has been involved, supportive, and helped me so much from the start. She has been able to support me in different ways than my father that have helped me greatly.”
“She has definitely been my female role model in my life and I can say that I have true love for her. Their wedding is this summer, and she asked her to be the maid of honor.”
Obviously, she happily accepted. Somehow her mother found out about it.
Though they do text a little, she is still low contact with her mother. Somehow her mother found out about her being the maid of honor for her dad’s wedding and she called her crying.
“It would break her heart if I were to be the maid of honor at their wedding,” she mentioned. “She went on a rant that she will always remain my mother and that nothing is going to change about that. I just told her that I didn’t know what to answer.”
She supports her father and her future stepmother. She doesn’t know how to make it clear to her mother that she has no say in her life, without cutting her out of her life completely.
One commenter suggested that she doesn’t need to go to the effort of explaining herself. Her mother is just trying to cause drama.
Another said that her mother sounded like a classic narcissist; more focused on how she looks to people rather than what is best for her daughter.
Someone else made a very good point which I wholeheartedly agree with. They suggested that she should ignore her mother as “you can’t control her actions any more than she can control yours.”
“Generally, this type of abuser will take any opening,” they said.
“You may have to go no contact. It might be until after the wedding or it might be longer depending on what you are or aren’t willing to put up with and for how long.”
What would you have done if this was her mother?
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