He Freaked Out On His Wife Because She Kept Making Negative Remarks About Their Newborn Daughter’s Appearance
This man and his wife recently welcomed their second child, a baby girl, into the world three weeks ago.
Before the pregnancy, though, his wife was diagnosed with depression and general anxiety disorder. So, ever since giving birth a few weeks ago, his wife has definitely been experiencing post-partum depression.
He also claimed that their first child– their son– looks just like his wife. In fact, his wife’s baby pictures look nearly identical to their son’s baby photos.
“And my wife is a looker, so my son is…cute, thank you very much,” he said.
But, his newborn daughter wound up inheriting more genes from his side of the family. So, her hairline has a widow’s peak– which he has had ever since he was a baby.
His daughter’s lips are also on the thinner side– like his– and she has a larger nose than his son’s.
This has meant that basically every day since his daughter was born just 21 days ago, his wife has made negative comments about their daughter’s appearance. More specifically, his wife keeps talking about how she is “so sad” that the baby girl got more of his features.
She has even said the comments directly to their baby, too. For instance, “Don’t worry, I’ll get you a nose job as soon as you’re old enough.”
His wife has also said, “I wish you had gotten more of my features. My family is beautiful, and all the women are timeless. Your dad’s family, not so much.”
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Finally, she added, “My son has beautiful pouty lips, and you got stuck with those pencil lips. Oh, it’s really tough being a girl.”
Now, up until yesterday, he tried to take a softer approach to his wife’s comments– telling her to relax and just be nice. After she continued making those remarks, though, he eventually had enough and snapped.
First, he told his wife that he didn’t care if their daughter could not yet understand the comments. He just wanted her to stop projecting that negativity out into the universe.
Plus, he pointed out how his son can definitely understand the remarks, and he understands, too. So, he told her to quit putting those ideas in his head and forcing him to listen to the negativity.
After that, he claimed that life was very tough for girls in this world– but even more so when their mothers talked badly about their appearance.
“And she is freaking three weeks old and is still perfect and noble and hasn’t hurt a soul. Stop projecting on her,” he vented to his wife.
“You regularly tell me how your mom messed up your psyche with all her comments about your appearance. So, why are you doing the same to our baby girl?”
He wound up yelling all of these things at his wife for about five minutes straight– including some choice words, too.
So, afterward, his wife was pretty hurt by his comments. And they have not really spoken or debriefed the situation ever since.
He admitted to recognizing that some of her comments likely stem from her depression, anxiety, and post-partum depression. He also realizes that some of his wife’s beliefs might be a product of his mother-in-law’s influence on his wife’s mental health.
Finally, he knows that berating and screaming at people is rarely ever the right way to handle conflicts.
So now, he has been left wondering whether going off on his wife for commenting on their three-week-old daughter’s appearance was the wrong thing to do.
Can you understand why he got so upset about all of these judgmental comments? Does it seem like his wife is really struggling with something personal? Could he have handled this situation better? What would you have done?
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