She Decided To Step Down As Her Sister’s Maid Of Honor After She Found Out That The Family Of Her Sister’s Husband Doesn’t Approve Of Her Being Divorced
When an older family member pays for a large percentage of your wedding expenses, they may make particular demands for part of the ceremony or reception.
One woman recently decided to step down as her sister’s maid of honor when she found out that her future brother-in-law’s family disapproved of her relationship status.
She’s a 29-year-old single mother of two, and her twin sister, Stella, will marry her fiancé named Jon this fall.
When she married her ex-husband eight years ago, Stella was her maid of honor. Once Stella got engaged, she was asked to take on the role for her wedding. Her two daughters are going to be Stella’s flower girls.
Stella has been a very supportive sister to her over the last couple of years, especially when things took a turn with her and her ex-husband.
“My parents and sister were the only reason I didn’t drown from the stress, loneliness, and total abandonment of my spouse,” she explained.
“I was a total mess. I went to therapy, got diagnosed with bipolar disorder and depression, quit drinking, and I owe a lot of it to my amazing sister.”
Stella and Jon got engaged last year. With their families, they decided that Jon’s parents would pay for about 60% of the wedding expenses, while she and Stella’s parents would pay for 30%. Jon and Stella will cover whatever costs are left.
While it’s nice that Jon’s parents will contribute so much money to the wedding, they’re being very strict about the ceremony. They insisted that it had to be in their family church, with a complete mass included as part of the ceremony. Jon’s parents care a lot about their reputation at their church.
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Recently, she was invited out to dinner by Stella. When she arrived, she noticed that Jon was there too, and he was acting a bit off. Then, she figured out why.
Jon told her that his parents were unhappy to find out she was divorced. He told her that his parents were not comfortable with the idea of her being up at the altar as the maid of honor, as it would look bad.
Then, he told her that she could still be a bridesmaid, but she wasn’t allowed to talk about her divorce or her “conditions” during the wedding events.
“I was stunned, and I felt tears in my eyes,” she remembered.
Stella tried to put a positive spin on the awful news by telling her that she no longer had to deal with the stressful maid of honor duties and that she had a friend who had already agreed to replace her.
She left the dinner early, feeling like she had to process the information alone.
“A few hours ago, I texted Stella that I would not be in her wedding party at all,” she said.
“That was my decision. I wouldn’t pull my daughters out, but I would only attend as a guest.”
She decided to temporarily block Stella from texting or calling her so she could have some space and talk things out with her parents. Now, she wonders if she should even go to the wedding at all.
What would you do if you were in her position?
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